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Melissa Edwards

Hey there, I have small solutions. One, this is for my mental health. I had more than enough adverse experiences. Two, I use my creative contributions as a way to combat some of the negativity in the world. Also, I can help create more positive spaces for the young people with whom I interact.

“So that happened. Now what?”

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So that happened. Now what?

This needs to be the motto of human existence because we mess up many times in our short period on this big rock.

So that happened. So what?

You pick yourself up and get moving again. To be human is to try again.

My beloved grandmother and others illustrated this concept for me, but it took a long time for the lesson to sink in properly.

My grandmother was a very practical person. She was, in fact, one of four very practical siblings, all part of the “Greatest” generation. …

Happy brown-skinned woman
Happy brown-skinned woman
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I have not watched the video showing the murder of George Floyd. Nor have I watched 12 Years a Slave, The Help, or Harriet. These films were highly praised historical fiction. I have not watched any of the recent videos of murders of any kind. I rarely watch the news, and if any pictures of violence are going to be shown, I am tuning out. These videos make up the real history, chosen to represent the world because, “If it bleeds, it leads.”

I did turn in to see these actors and actresses in genres other than historical fiction. I…

Dear Millennials, why is this a thing?

Two cold tea drinks in to-go cups
Two cold tea drinks in to-go cups
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I had noticed that the large coffee chain that is synonymous with fancy, expensive coffee***you know, Starbuck$***was putting nitrogen into some coffee drinks for a few years now, but I assumed that it was a quickly-passing fad. Then, this fad arrived in the common (wo)man’s store, my local 7–11.

I just learned this a few days ago: There is now a thing called Nitro Tea. I learned this at a 7–11 in Maryland. I had been wondering why the new fountain coffee and tea bar had two handles labeled “Hibiscus Pear” when I…

Green zucchini, red bell pepper, orange sweet potato, yellow onion in a pan
Green zucchini, red bell pepper, orange sweet potato, yellow onion in a pan
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No, I don’t love cooking. I cook because I need to eat. Like many of you, I have been cooking more because we are in a pandemic. When you do something more often, you often get better at it. This weekend I realized that I was really enjoying riffing on recipes: my comfort level and calm in the kitchen were at a high level. Since this awesome feeling rarely visits me, I decided that if I tried to decode how I got here, maybe I could replicate this situation more often.

Here are some of the keys that led to…

She has set down some roots.

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By Melissa Edwards

One day, you will decide not to move. That is, you will not move, and it will be a purposeful decision, not because you are physically unable. You will decide that this place is it, and you will put down some roots in this place.

For example, I can take a long time to decide, and even I did it one day: I decided not to move.

Family portraits hanging on the wall with dim lighting.
Family portraits hanging on the wall with dim lighting.
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Hands. Years ago, when my nearly 30-year-old daughter was closer to single-digit ages, I wanted to capture photographs of hands making and doing tasks. So I did. I created a sepia-toned set of photographs to display in my basement’s “play area.” My recently deceased grandmother’s hands lifting the lid on a pot of greens, my hands crafting a scrapbook, my daughter’s hands practicing for piano class—these photographs now reside on the wall of my condo along with one of those staged photographs that includes my even-longer-deceased mother. Four generations together.

These hands represent creativity. The ability to create, to “make…

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I agree with most of the world on this point: 2020 was a bad year. Not the worst, according to historians who say that 532 A.D. was the worst: extreme weather events contributed to crop failures and famines that lasted for some years later. However, for many of the people alive today, 2020 is the worst year that we have experienced. The Coronavirus pandemic has cut us off from other people and from group activities that we had come to rely upon to ease our modern existence. In addition, a greater than usual number of us, myself included, experienced the…

Melissa Edwards

Educator. Mother. Memory keeper. Dog mom. Friend.

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